One of my favorite blogs is Chris Guillebeau’s Art of Nonconformity. Every year, he does an end of the year review to assess what went well, what didn’t, and how to improve things in the year to come. Usually I avoid doing the exercise since it seems like nothing that interesting happened. This year a lot of things went well so I wanted to take the time remember and celebrate the the successes.
What Went Well This Year?
- Felt well enough to end therapy and set out on my own
- Finished life coaching with Alex and had some big epiphanies about the patterns in my life
- Hired at a full time ambitious job with other young people
- Joined an accountability group
- Bought a nice camera! Which was something I had wanted to do for years and never had the money
- Went to a Social Triggers networking event and actually had fun/didn’t hide in the corner or leave after 10 minutes.
- Started personal training
- Lost 15 pounds
- Made friends with other bloggers
- Stopped binge eating every weekend
- Not afraid to ask for help or follow up with people
- Been less apologetic about my ambitions or failures
- Actually let more than 1 person read this blog! The last one I never let anyone read and I don’t think I told a single person what I was working on in my free time.
Overall, it’s been “The Year of Growing Up”. I had gotten into the bad habit of blaming everyone else for the problems in my life so I always had an excuse why things weren’t working out. It was hard to admit that I wasn’t putting in the work to make things better. My favorite blogs talk about taking responsibility for yourself so that’s how I started directing my life.
Instead of getting upset over every bad interview, I said “F%#$ that, I’m awesome and someone will eventually hire me.” About a month after making that decision, I was offered the job I’m at now. It’s full benefits and they’re training me every day to be more assertive.
What Didn’t Go Well This Year?
- Didn’t get as independent as I wanted
- Didn’t move out on my own
- Didn’t lose as much weight as I wanted to
- Didn’t grow the blog as much as I wanted to do this year
- Didn’t make that many new friends in the city
- Still spend a little too much time hiding out in my room
- Still tend to be be afraid of success and putting myself more out there in the world
The thing I regret the most is not pushing things further. Why couldn’t I lose 30 pounds instead of 15? Why didn’t I push marketing the blog more? At the same time, I’m trying to not take it too hard since so many things went well this year. You can’t rush everything and sometimes it takes longer than you expect to follow through with your goals. I haven’t given up on them, it’s time to regroup and figure out how to make it happen.
Next year shall therefore be named:
THE YEAR OF SUCCESS
I’m tired of half finishing and half trying things. Next year I want to throw myself headfirst into all of my projects and have them be a success. Even if they fail, I would feel like it was a success if I met the challenge head on and attacked it.
Quote to live by next year
Give ’em hell, kid.